It’s okay to not be friends with your ex-partner

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I was prepared to write my own content on this subject, until I found the image I would use to go along with it on Bustle.

Writer Lea Rose Emery did a great job laying out the reasons, so I will simply list them here and you can follow the link if you want to read the full article.

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Transactional Relationships – some personal anecdotes

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I want to help,” he said handing over a stack of cash. “But I don’t want to get involved.” 

I can think of no better example of unconditional love – giving with the only expectation that the gift be used for good and the betterment of one’s current situation. In this example, he wasn’t expecting any sort of favor or a more-intimate relationship. He didn’t give explicit direction on how to spend it. He gave the gift freely without strings attached – only that he wants my life to get better. This is the exact opposite of transactional love.

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The Body Keeps Score

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I have a friend who see themselves in the worst way. It puzzles me because over the years, this friend has been kind, generous, thoughtful, and selfless in ways that have delighted me. This friend thinks they have done something horrible to hurt me. And even though I have memory issues, my body remembers when someone has hurt me before.

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The Choices We Make

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Every day brings choices…

and over time, these choices define us.

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A Blank Page is a Beautiful Thing

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The paper patiently waits, never rushing a writer – never mocking, though an aspiring author may imagine that very thing.

But no matter how frustrated the writer becomes, whether the words are brilliant, broken, or a nonsensical stream of consciousness – the paper forms no judgement or proffers insensitive criticisms.

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Coming Soon: “Transactional Love”

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Love comes in many forms. Author C.S. Lewis wrote about the “four loves” he learned of via his study of Greek wisdom – storge, philia, eros, and agape. Love can also be expressed in a variety of ways. Gary Chapman wrote about this in his best-selling book “The Five Love Languages.” But this post is not about the “four loves.” Nor is it about the expression of love This entry is about the bastardization of love – also known as “transactional love.”

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Thoughts are habits

I want to make sure you read that title right – “Thoughts ARE habits.”

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Why survivors stay silent

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Ninety-nine percent and what happens to survivors who speak out

This is not a post about income inequality. This is a post about the “other” ninety-nine percent. This is a post about the statistical fact that 99 percent of perpetrators of rape walk free among us

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