In my court hearing against rapist Aaron Lamb this past week, he called his ex-wife to the stand as a witness. Lamb also made reference to another person I had considered a friend, a fellow feminist, and an ally in the fight against rape culture. Third, he referenced a friend who had for a time in 2017 helped me to escape my marriage to a mortally-violent man. It breaks my heart that despite all the awareness spread by movement like #MeToo and #TimesUp that still some people (even people close to a survivor) still stubbornly and with great cruelty choose to side with the rapist instead of the people he has victimized.
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Reasons you should believe rape survivors
Posted by Jacqueline on December 18, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/18/reasons-you-should-believe-rape-survivors/
Lamb lies in court
When it comes to getting justice for rape survivors – the amount of time, effort, and emotional turmoil we are subject to is ridiculous. Were it not so traumatic, I would find it laughable.
Posted by Jacqueline on December 17, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/17/lamb-lies-in-court/
The final hour
In this final hour as I await my car and driver to transport me to the Cass County Courthouse, I feel butterflies bouncing around in my empty stomach. I spent the morning vomiting foam due to anxiety over facing rapist Aaron Michael Lamb in court. I am nervous… but I am not afraid.
(more…)Posted by Jacqueline on December 16, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/16/the-final-hour/
Insult to Injury
This article from Bitch Media is so good I felt the need to share it here in its entirety. You can also view the original post here.
Who’s Left out of the Picture When We Talk About Traumatic Brain Injury?
by Sarah KishpaughPublished on September 6, 2018 at 10:20am
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(more…)Posted by Jacqueline on December 7, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/07/insult-to-injury/
Life after a brain injury
After surviving something as traumatic as a brain injury, it can sometimes feel as though life should not go on. In some sense – life will never be the same as it was before. Often people’s personalities change with a brain injury. This can be the most difficult change for survivors as well as their loved ones. It challenges a person’s very sense of self.
Posted by Jacqueline on December 6, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/06/life-after-a-brain-injury/
Richard Kodadek is a rapist and a wife beater
Since my 2013 wedding to Richard Lee Kodadek (DOB 01/03/1981), I have been struggling to recover from a traumatic brain injury I sustained as a result of that relationship. Granted, I did not know this is what I was struggling with until several years later. I was told repeatedly by many doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, and my husband himself that I was “just” wrestling with depression, anxiety, and mood instability. The fact of the matter is that in a single day, my entire personality had changed and nobody close to me – not even Richard Kodadek – seemed to take notice.
Posted by Jacqueline on December 4, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/04/my-own-personal-timesup/
Not just another Wednesday morning!
I awoke Wednesday morning to a surprise I had never expected to receive. Aaron Lamb, renowned sexual predator and businessman, had made an attempt to call me at 3am the morning of December 1, 20201. So I did what any savvy rape survivor would do – I call my local dispatch center to report the harassment to my local police department.
(more…)Posted by Jacqueline on December 2, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/02/not-just-another-wednesday-morning/
A call at 3am from a rapist
Posted by Jacqueline on December 1, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/12/01/a-call-at-3am-from-a-rapist/
Aaron Lamb is a Rapist
Aaron Michael Lamb (DOB 02/14/1975) is a sexual predator and a rapist. I was not his first victim and will surely not be his last. He raped me in my own bed one April night in 2021. I thought he was someone who could be trusted, but I was very wrong.
Posted by Jacqueline on November 24, 2021
https://justonetake.com/2021/11/24/aaron-lamb-is-a-rapist/
Should I report rape?
It’s an awful shame that’s even a question. We don’t question if we should report a burglary, a car crash, or any other type of assault. But unfortunately, rape falls into its own unique category. A survivor of a sexual assault needs to consider many factors when it comes to reporting.
Posted by Jacqueline on February 17, 2020
https://justonetake.com/2020/02/17/should-i-report-rape/
Just One Take 