Step One: Prepare Yourself
This may come as a surprise to some, but step one is not getting a cat. There is much to be done in preparing your home and family for bringing a feline into the household. First of all, you must have supplies on-hand for when you bring your little furball home for the first time. Things you will need include:
Posted by Jacqueline on August 2, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/08/02/caring-for-cats/
I’m not sure if you get my messages. You often say you will block my number. So I don’t know if they get through to you – either literally or metaphorically. But I know you check this website every day so I will tell it to you again here. I will not abandon you.
Posted by Jacqueline on August 2, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/08/02/i-will-not-abandon-you/
As I’ve worked on putting the concept of Trust Levels into practice, one thing I’ve noticed is that the more intimate I anticipate a relationship could be – the slower I will progress someone through the levels. Relationships are challenging – even one between just two amiable people can be difficult. So it’s best to do your research straight from the start and it is even more critical for those you consider bringing into your innermost circle.
I discovered the importance of pacing by accident when I met him at a bar one evening. Both being regulars at this particular establishment, we were surprised that our paths hadn’t crossed sooner. That brought us right up to level one – acquaintances.
Posted by Jacqueline on August 2, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/08/02/trust-levels-in-the-real-world/
I’m working on a follow-up to this post, including some personal real-world examples 😉
I used to think that trust was like and “on/off” switch – either I trusted someone or I didn’t. But that doesn’t have to be the case. I learned a better way and I hope this post can help someone find a better way for themselves.
There are levels to trust. For example, you can trust most people to not shoot you in line at the grocery store. However, that doesn’t mean you hand them your wallet, keys, and the passcode to your accounts. There are stages you need to put people through as you determine where they fit in your life and level of trust.
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Posted by Jacqueline on July 30, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/30/trust-levels-2/
Warning… moderately graphic graffiti and text messages ahead.
Posted by Jacqueline on July 20, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/20/husbands-self-portrait/
Dear Richard,
You’ve always been a coward. I didn’t see it for so long because I loved you. Though I love you still, the rose-colored glasses have been removed and I see you for what you are.
You are a coward. You were a coward before I met you. And you are a coward still. You told me yourself that you stayed on SSI/Disability long after you had any need of it – that staying on it was your “security blanket.” When I needed you most to speak for me, you stayed silent. When I needed you to notice me and the work I was doing, you ignored me. You belittled me. You marginalized me. And when I was struggling after running out of medication, you not only failed to notice – you left. You abandoned me in my most desperate hour. And you’ve abandoned me every day, every hour, every minute since then.
Posted by Jacqueline on July 20, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/20/letter-to-my-husband/
I would like to wish my husband a happy anniversary! It was one year ago today he revealed to me the lie that our marriage had been built upon.
Posted by Jacqueline on July 19, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/19/happy-anniversary-richard/
I used to think that trust was like and “on/off” switch – either I trusted someone or I didn’t. But that doesn’t have to be the case. I learned a better way and I hope this post can help someone find a better way for themselves.
There are levels to trust. For example, you can trust most people to not shoot you in line at the grocery store. However, that doesn’t mean you hand them your wallet, keys, and the passcode to your accounts. There are stages you need to put people through as you determine where they fit in your life and level of trust.
Posted by Jacqueline on July 10, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/10/trust-levels/
Art by Jill Battaglia
“He was supposed to protect me,” she thought with angry tears in her eyes as the rain fell hard against the windows of her car. That singular thought swirling over and over in her mind like creamer in coffee. “He was supposed to protect me.”
But he didn’t. He had left her. He abandoned her. And he gave no indication that he had any capacity left to care for her at all. In that moment, she couldn’t ever remember feeling so alone.
Posted by Jacqueline on July 9, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/09/nothing/
Frankie’s Loving Parents
Grief is something that hits everyone differently. Sometimes, it takes you over immediately assaulting all your sensibilities. Other times, it is a slow burn that you feel incrementally stronger as time passes. But however it strikes, there is no going around – you must go through the fire.
Posted by Jacqueline on July 3, 2018
https://justonetake.com/2018/07/03/grieving-frankie/
Just One Take 